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[claysababe]

If you're crying out of guilt you probably should not be having sex. JMO. You need to be okay with yourself and how you feel to be emotionally ready for sex.

[Jordan_McCoy17]

So I just started having sex with my new boyfriend (it's been my first few times, I lost it to him), and while I enjoy the sex, I can never really get to the point of an orgasm. Even if he's fingering me or eating me out. Whenever he's fingering me or inside me, I just feel like I reaally have to pee, even if I've gone before. It just bothers me, I think that's partially what's stopping me from having an orgasm.
I don't know, I might just be rambling. But like, is this common? And if it is, is there any way to like, not feel like I have to pee, and relax a bit more? I just wanna have an orgasm with him.

[claysababe]

Make sure you pee before sex just so you won't be worried about peeing so much. They say that feeling comes from him hitting your g spot. If ou keep at it you may orgasm. I have difficulty orgasming through sex and it is pretty common.

[saran4886]

So I just started having sex with my new boyfriend (it's been my first few times, I lost it to him), and while I enjoy the sex, I can never really get to the point of an orgasm. Even if he's fingering me or eating me out. Whenever he's fingering me or inside me, I just feel like I reaally have to pee, even if I've gone before. It just bothers me, I think that's partially what's stopping me from having an orgasm.
I don't know, I might just be rambling. But like, is this common? And if it is, is there any way to like, not feel like I have to pee, and relax a bit more? I just wanna have an orgasm with him.

I have the exact same problem. Every time I get close to orgasm I just feel like I have to pee... but then I talked about it with my guy friend and he says the feeling is very similar for him right before he finishes. I'm still afraid I'll just pee all over and make a mess though.

[Annie]

omg me too. then one time i just... did it (not peed, just let myself ~go) and.. whoaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa

This post has been edited by Annie: Feb 29th 2012, 10:35 PM

[Lucy*Chantel*]

I have the exact same problem. Every time I get close to orgasm I just feel like I have to pee... but then I talked about it with my guy friend and he says the feeling is very similar for him right before he finishes. I'm still afraid I'll just pee all over and make a mess though.

i have the SAME problem. except my body like shuts down and the feeling goes away, and then everything is really intense afterwards. and i can't handle.

i want to be able to orgasm so freaking bad. but i dont know how! ive tried to fight my body and it fights back twice as hard.

[pink-ebonette]

^I don't have the same problem () but I think you need to stop thinking about having an orgasm. Instead, just concentrate on enjoying what you're feeling and let it occur on its own. I've read that the more you think about it and get obsessed with having one...the less likely you are to actually have one.

Also, I'm quite sure you're not going to pee.

[AmberTamblynFan]

Sooo I'm a virgin who's not even dating someone haha but the past few days I've really felt like having sex/imagined what it might be like or what I want it to be like and I don't quite know why haha. I've felt like this more than once over the past few days Has anyone ever felt something similar?

I also think that when I do have sex it's going to be amazing and really fun so my expectations are probably way too high

I truly apologize if this was tmi.

Oh and a super random and awkward comment from my mom a while ago... I don't use tampons because I can't seem to figure out exactly how to use them. My mom said "maybe after you have sex you might feel more comfortable sticking something in there"

This post has been edited by AmberTamblynFan: Mar 29th 2012, 12:03 AM

[juniorfan4eva]

Sooo I'm a virgin who's not even dating someone haha but the past few days I've really felt like having sex/imagined what it might be like or what I want it to be like and I don't quite know why haha. I've felt like this more than once over the past few days Has anyone ever felt something similar?

I also think that when I do have sex it's going to be amazing and really fun so my expectations are probably way too high

I truly apologize if this was tmi.

Oh and a super random and awkward comment from my mom a while ago... I don't use tampons because I can't seem to figure out exactly how to use them. My mom said "maybe after you have sex you might feel more comfortable sticking something in there"

Omg I agree with all of that. Like if the topic of sex comes up with my friends I'm just like huhhhh wonder what it's legit like. And I still can't use tampons (apparently I have "vaginismus" which makes it not possible to get anything in without it hurting) but my sister said that she couldn't use tampons until she had sex so I don't think that's uncommon.

[JYCT]

Sooo I'm a virgin who's not even dating someone haha but the past few days I've really felt like having sex/imagined what it might be like or what I want it to be like and I don't quite know why haha. I've felt like this more than once over the past few days Has anyone ever felt something similar?

I also think that when I do have sex it's going to be amazing and really fun so my expectations are probably way too high

I truly apologize if this was tmi.

Oh and a super random and awkward comment from my mom a while ago... I don't use tampons because I can't seem to figure out exactly how to use them. My mom said "maybe after you have sex you might feel more comfortable sticking something in there"

Sex can be amazing and fun if you're with a partner you're comfortable with, but I still think it takes a while until it becomes amazing and all as you two get used to each others bodies. Sex to me is just awkward. But I've been extremely underwhelmed when I slept with guys that I didn't know well. I know some girls have lost their virginity to random one night stands just to like get it over with, but that's just asking for a horrible sexual experience haha so don't let your curiosity get the best of you

[AmberTamblynFan]

Sex can be amazing and fun if you're with a partner you're comfortable with, but I still think it takes a while until it becomes amazing and all as you two get used to each others bodies. Sex to me is just awkward. But I've been extremely underwhelmed when I slept with guys that I didn't know well. I know some girls have lost their virginity to random one night stands just to like get it over with, but that's just asking for a horrible sexual experience haha so don't let your curiosity get the best of you

Yeah- I don't think I'd ever have a one night stand, especially to have a one-night stand just to get rid of the V-card.

I definitely want to be in love with someone before I sleep with them- I think it'll be much better & intimate that way. Plus, I do want children so if I were to get pregnant (without necessarily trying) I'd want to know for sure that the guy would stick around.

[noise]

I had sex in a car for the first time last night LOL so scary but fun. I don't think I want to do it again but now I can say...sex in a car? CHECK.

[juniorfan4eva]

I had sex in a car for the first time last night LOL so scary but fun. I don't think I want to do it again but now I can say...sex in a car? CHECK.

LOL never had sex in a car but I've done other sexual things in a car... it's great

[BEHiiNDTHESMiiLE]

I've had sex in a car! Only once... Never again. It was so uncomfortable in my little civic.

[claysababe]

Yeah I have a two door with bucket seats in the back. My car is not good for sex but it has happened. Lol. I got bruises, so uncomfy. Haha

[juniorfan4eva]

Why do guys ilke virgins?! I thought it'd be the opposite

This post has been edited by juniorfan4eva: Mar 30th 2012, 4:25 PM

[AmberTamblynFan]

Why do guys ilke virgins?! I thought it'd be the opposite

I'm kind of wondering that too haha.

My guess is that it's pretty rare to be a virgin these days so maybe they think the girl is strong because she wants to wait and doesn't want to give it up to just anyone.

Also, maybe he is happy because he wants to be the one to show her what sex is like- intimate, fun etc. Maybe he's glad he can guide her/show her the way haha.

Again, these are total guesses. Maybe a guy could give us his opinion

[AnnaBanana]

I'm guessing the guy feels powerful and special since he's the one who gets to deflower the virgin.

[AngelOfMusic8908]

When I had sex with my ex I was a virgin and he wasn't, so maybe he felt a sense of power because he got to de-flower me. And with me, I didn't want to die a virgin so.......but maybe I should have waited.

[noise]

Guys like having sex with virgins because 1) a virgin will be super tight and 2) yes the empowerment factor but also, if you only have had sex once with this guy, this guy will be all you have known, so you're automatically going to think he's good (or at least thats what they think lol) that they have the nicest penis, and that you're going to compare everyone to him, etc and 3) (usually only if you're in a relationship and he's a good guy) he'll like it because he's the only person that you've been with and he hasn't shared you with others. And I guess this goes without saying, but your first time is something you'll always remember, imagine taking that away from someone. I took away someones virginity and felt horrible about it because he told me he wasn't a virgin at first. Now I don't really feel bad because he was lying, but still.