the really awkward question thread! Options

[ringette04]

So random but I wonder if I know him, I'm from NS and I know a group that just got back from Cuba too. glad you found him! I had an experience like that but I didn't find him on Facebook so I just had to leave it as a vacation hookup! Haha

Haha what town are you from/how old are these people?! so curious!! and aww yeah part of me thinks I should leave it like that but once again, I'm chatting with him all night... ugh!

[TorinTaylor]

So because of my past, my mom has to hide all medications from me. Not that I'd do anything I'm not supposed to now, but it's for my safety and it's fine, I get that. So today I asked her for my naproxen because my permanent crown started throbbing and made me feel kinda sick. She flipped out, started yelling "THAT IS WHY I TOLD YOU TO GO TO THE DENTIST THIS MORNING!!!!!!!" Like okay well it was not even bothering me then, and even if it was the dentist doesn't take walk-ins. And I told her all that but she won't give me my medicine still. I'm literally sitting here in tears because it hurts so bad. I can't even eat. She doesn't care and I have no idea what to do.

[claysababe]

So because of my past, my mom has to hide all medications from me. Not that I'd do anything I'm not supposed to now, but it's for my safety and it's fine, I get that. So today I asked her for my naproxen because my permanent crown started throbbing and made me feel kinda sick. She flipped out, started yelling "THAT IS WHY I TOLD YOU TO GO TO THE DENTIST THIS MORNING!!!!!!!" Like okay well it was not even bothering me then, and even if it was the dentist doesn't take walk-ins. And I told her all that but she won't give me my medicine still. I'm literally sitting here in tears because it hurts so bad. I can't even eat. She doesn't care and I have no idea what to do.

Can you take ibuprofen/Tylenol/ alive?

[TorinTaylor]

Can you take ibuprofen/Tylenol/ alive?

I took excedrin for it, which helped a little. Then I went to the dentist the next day and they fixed the issue.

[saran4886]

Nevermind.

This post has been edited by saran4886: May 19th 2013, 6:51 PM

[BestUsernameEva]

This is kind of a dumb question but I had a final paper due for one of my classes via e-mail...yesterday (Friday). I'm finishing it up now so the earliest I'll email it is early tomorrow (Sunday) morning...when I email it to my professor should I preface it with a note apologizing for it being late? I feel bad just sending it two days late, but I also don't have a real excuse for it being late, I just procrastinated too much.

[Jordan-N-Torifan]

So in February/March I was kind of seeing this guy I work with. Things were going really well but then in April he was going through some personal things and decided it would be better if we were just friends. It came out of nowhere for me so I was pretty upset but I guess I was ok. When we were "together" we hung out almost every week on days we were both off and though we never texted everyday, we did quite frequently. Now, all we do is talk at work. We haven't hung out in a few weeks and haven't texted in a couple weeks either except for briefly yesterday because it was his birthday and I texted him. When we talk at work, everything seems normal, like it's not awkward at all but I miss hanging out with him. I'd be ok with just talking at work (sort of) but I'm leaving to start a new job in a month and I'm scared that I'm going to lose him completely. I'm really shy and have a hard time telling people things about me but with him, I basically could tell him anything and I don't want to lose that. And I don't have many friends down here as it is so I'd like to keep him in my life. I want to talk to him but I'm just scared that I'm just going to sound desperate or clingy or annoying to him. My roommate told me I need to tell him but I just don't know how. It's not something I want to just bring up at work but that's the only time I see him now. And I don't even know how much I'm going to see him at work anymore since I'm working somewhere else a few days a week from now until the time I start my new job. I know that we broke up but I guess I thought since we ended things on good terms, maybe we would still be friends. I mean I do want to be with him but I'm honestly okay with just being friends. I've never had an ex who I wanted to be friends with though so I don't know if it's unrealistic to expect us to actually hang out/be friends. Any advice?

[Annie]

I'm friends with a couple of my exes. I've just been able to talk to them and hang out with them. I'd try to strike up conversations, but not be too overly flirty? Maybe? It's always just kind of flowed that way for me. Saying stuff like "I hope we can still be friends!!" kinda can make things awkward.. Just treat it as you'd treat any friendship, tbh

[Jordan-N-Torifan]

I'm friends with a couple of my exes. I've just been able to talk to them and hang out with them. I'd try to strike up conversations, but not be too overly flirty? Maybe? It's always just kind of flowed that way for me. Saying stuff like "I hope we can still be friends!!" kinda can make things awkward.. Just treat it as you'd treat any friendship, tbh

I hung out with him a few days ago actually it was fine. He even said that it was fun and that choosing to go there (I asked if he wanted to go. ) was a good decision. I'm glad that we can still hang out/talk at work without it being awkward but I still wish we were still together. It just really sucks because I feel like he knows me better than almost anyone. I usually don't like telling people personal things about me but with him it's fine. But I'd rather be his friend than nothing so I guess it's ok. lolidk

[TorinTaylor]

I don't want to start a new thread for this, and don't know where else so post this so I'm just putting it here. I have social anxiety, and for the longest time I've just accepted that that's the reason for how I am in certain situations. But for a while now, I've been researching online and even taking self screening tests for Aspergers. What makes me think that I could have that is how I have so much trouble being able to pick up on social cues. I hate when people are sarcastic because I cannot tell if it's sarcasm or not. Unless it's like, extremely obvious. On the self test, it said 32 or higher is what people with Aspergers get, and I got a 34. I related to SO many of the questions like one asked if I am good at remembering phone numbers or birthdays. And I literally remember everyone's birthday. Even people I haven't spoken to in years.

So I was just wondering if anyone here either has Aspergers or knows a lot about it and can tell me if I should bring it up to my psychiatrist on the 11th. I kind of don't want to bring it up then because I need to talk to her about the ADD-like symptoms I've been dealing with. I don't want to bring up both because I feel like a hypochondriac or something. But the ADD symptoms, I feel, are interfering (slightly) more than anything else. So I'd rather get that taken care of first, if that is what the problem is.

Sorry for the long post, and thank you to whoever reads/responds.

[saran4886]

I don't have Asperger's but my first ex has it and he doesn't have problems with social cues most of the time. (I mean he doesn't really pick up on subtlety, but most men don't so... ) but he's also kind of just worked at figuring out the patterns of people's behavior and working from there... if that makes sense? But yeah, if the ADD-like symptoms are bothering you more currently, I'd say definitely bring that up rather than the Asperger's thing.

This post has been edited by saran4886: Jun 2nd 2013, 6:20 PM

[claysababe]

I don't want to start a new thread for this, and don't know where else so post this so I'm just putting it here. I have social anxiety, and for the longest time I've just accepted that that's the reason for how I am in certain situations. But for a while now, I've been researching online and even taking self screening tests for Aspergers. What makes me think that I could have that is how I have so much trouble being able to pick up on social cues. I hate when people are sarcastic because I cannot tell if it's sarcasm or not. Unless it's like, extremely obvious. On the self test, it said 32 or higher is what people with Aspergers get, and I got a 34. I related to SO many of the questions like one asked if I am good at remembering phone numbers or birthdays. And I literally remember everyone's birthday. Even people I haven't spoken to in years.

So I was just wondering if anyone here either has Aspergers or knows a lot about it and can tell me if I should bring it up to my psychiatrist on the 11th. I kind of don't want to bring it up then because I need to talk to her about the ADD-like symptoms I've been dealing with. I don't want to bring up both because I feel like a hypochondriac or something. But the ADD symptoms, I feel, are interfering (slightly) more than anything else. So I'd rather get that taken care of first, if that is what the problem is.

Sorry for the long post, and thank you to whoever reads/responds.

Hey hey...I have a ton of experience working with kids/teens with aspergers. I would say just from your posts and whatnot that you do not have aspergers. You are way too intune to people's emotions and you have no problem expressing how you feel at least via writing. I think in some ways we are all "on the spectrum," but I don't think you'd meet all the criteria for a diagnosis. It seems like though that you do have the social anxiety and whatnot and perhaps that has contributed to aspergers-like behaviors(people with Aspergers generally have anxiety as well) but if you were to see someone who truly had aspergers you would probably think they were a little off/weird but may not think they had aspergers,if that makes sense. Although there are many super high functioning people with aspergers, as they learn to cope and their symptoms become less. I'd have to see/talk to you in person before diagnosing lol. The thing about remembering birthdays etc could just be a quirk and not related to a developmental thing that is associated with aspergers. If you think you have ADD and that you relate to that diagnosis I would definitely bring it up to your therapist!! ADD is often comorbid with Aspergers as well. Everything is kind of interconnected, so at times makes it difficult to diagnose. Just from what I've known of you tho over the yrs I never had an opinion of aspergers for you and I have worked with like a hundred different kids/teens on the spectrum. But it really takes me seeing someone in person to tell. Hope that helped lol

[brownies]

Being a sarcastic person, I'm having a real hard time figuring out if other people are being sarcastic or not. I don't want to ask, "Are you being sarcastic?" because what if they're not. Awkward.

[juniorfan4eva]

Being a sarcastic person, I'm having a real hard time figuring out if other people are being sarcastic or not. I don't want to ask, "Are you being sarcastic?" because what if they're not. Awkward.

I literally do that so much I actually have offended people

[misspenguin]

Being a sarcastic person, I'm having a real hard time figuring out if other people are being sarcastic or not. I don't want to ask, "Are you being sarcastic?" because what if they're not. Awkward.

Especially if its in text form. I'm getting to the point where I can usually figure out if someone is being sarcastic in person but online its a totally different story. There needs to be a sarcasm font or something.

[Niki]

I don't want to start a new thread for this, and don't know where else so post this so I'm just putting it here. I have social anxiety, and for the longest time I've just accepted that that's the reason for how I am in certain situations. But for a while now, I've been researching online and even taking self screening tests for Aspergers. What makes me think that I could have that is how I have so much trouble being able to pick up on social cues. I hate when people are sarcastic because I cannot tell if it's sarcasm or not. Unless it's like, extremely obvious. On the self test, it said 32 or higher is what people with Aspergers get, and I got a 34. I related to SO many of the questions like one asked if I am good at remembering phone numbers or birthdays. And I literally remember everyone's birthday. Even people I haven't spoken to in years.

So I was just wondering if anyone here either has Aspergers or knows a lot about it and can tell me if I should bring it up to my psychiatrist on the 11th. I kind of don't want to bring it up then because I need to talk to her about the ADD-like symptoms I've been dealing with. I don't want to bring up both because I feel like a hypochondriac or something. But the ADD symptoms, I feel, are interfering (slightly) more than anything else. So I'd rather get that taken care of first, if that is what the problem is.

Sorry for the long post, and thank you to whoever reads/responds.

Omg this sounds so much like me.

I thought I may have Aspergers at some point cuz I read about it and I can't always get sarcasm either, am really good with numbers and remembering dates etc but have always been anxious and socially awkward (but I am getting much better), and have always been a clutz too. But I asked my anxiety therapist about it and she said I don't have Aspergers, just panic disorder and anxiety. I think a lot of the traits just overlap.

Justin has Aspergers and he totally loves sarcasm but doesn't have a filter when he's speaking so in his mind saying something like, "you gained weight!" Is okay when well, it's not. That's what caused our relationship so many issues. Knowing that he meant well but that didn't make it right.

[bswanson]

torintaylor and Niki im kind of the same way.I dont have anxienty but do have some Aspergers. Although the doctor said thee are different stages of it and Im more toward the lighter side. It makes me socailly awkaward. I always had a hard time making friends to school. I do have a friend I hang with all the time though. it also makes it hard for me to talk to girls. Niki we talk all the time on here, but if it were in real life I would get real shy and would have a hard time talking to you at first. btw Torintaylor your user sounds familair I think ive seen you in other forums.

This post has been edited by bswanson: Jun 14th 2013, 1:50 PM

[TorinTaylor]

Yeah, so I had the appointment with my psych the other day. I do have ADD/ADHD and I have to get an EKG before I start taking the medication because it could mess with my heart. But she said it'll start working right away if it is the right medication and whatnot, so I'll notice a difference that same day. So I'm glad that'll be taken care of. But I still feel like something isn't right with me socially. It could just be my anxiety issues, but I often catch myself in trouble with my mom or whoever, for saying something "heartless" that I didn't see a problem with until afterwards. I guess I can keep that in check, for now at least though. I like it better when I keep quiet anyway so if I feel like saying something, I'll try to think of how it could come across to other people. Or I just won't say anything if I have to think about it.

Though I wonder if my anti-anxiety medications were upped, if that would help at all.

[brownies]

I literally do that so much I actually have offended people

I only asked when I'm like pissed at the person but as a friendly question, I can't.

Especially if its in text form. I'm getting to the point where I can usually figure out if someone is being sarcastic in person but online its a totally different story. There needs to be a sarcasm font or something.

YES. IN TEXT FORM I CAN'T EVEN. But yeah, if I text with the person for a time, I think I can cope up with his/her sarcasm.

I do agree too online. Especially in this forum. I need to think for a while to know if they are being sarcastic or not.