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post Jun 19th 2009, 9:54 PM
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Just thought I'd make a thread just for all the ladies to talk/support one another!
Whether it is about beauty/love/confidence/personal issues whatever! heart.gif
Spill it all here! w00twave.gif

My problem is not even jealousy when it comes to girls but I get such low confidence whenever I see the guy I like, flirting or liking another girl. crying.gif
AH, I know.. I shouldn't even be upset, but I do get upset & I find myself comparing myself to girls all the time. sad.gif
I'm getting A LOT better though & I am reminding myself everyday, to love all that I am, including my flaws. heart.gif

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post Jun 19th 2009, 10:47 PM
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Yay estrogen and two X chromosomes! Baha.

I totally do the same thing. I'm always comparing myself to girls that guys I like interact with, and I tend to get really paranoid, too, and worry that he likes her just because he's talking to her. It's totally ridiculous, I know, but I have like zero self-confidence when it comes to guys.


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post Jun 19th 2009, 11:59 PM
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QUOTE(TotalTayFan @ Jun 19th 2009, 10:47 PM) *

Yay estrogen and two X chromosomes! Baha.

I totally do the same thing. I'm always comparing myself to girls that guys I like interact with, and I tend to get really paranoid, too, and worry that he likes her just because he's talking to her. It's totally ridiculous, I know, but I have like zero self-confidence when it comes to guys.


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Aw, yeah. That's how I always feel too. pinch.gif
& It's like, I know I'm not ugly but no matter what I find myself looking at other girls & seeing what they have that I don't. no.gif Gah, it's stupid & I really am trying to change that. heart.gif


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post Jun 20th 2009, 12:24 AM
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QUOTE(TotalTayFan @ Jun 19th 2009, 9:47 PM) *

Yay estrogen and two X chromosomes! Baha.

I totally do the same thing. I'm always comparing myself to girls that guys I like interact with, and I tend to get really paranoid, too, and worry that he likes her just because he's talking to her. It's totally ridiculous, I know, but I have like zero self-confidence when it comes to guys.

I do the same exact thing. I tend to over-think things especially when it comes to guys or a guy I like. I also get jealous too of people who are confident/have a really bubbly personality, mainly because I am shy and I strive for that so much it just feels like I fail constantly.


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post Jun 20th 2009, 1:17 AM
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Oh I'm shy too. I have gotten better about it though. It kinda of makes it harder when the guy is also shy like you.


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post Jun 20th 2009, 2:19 AM
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I used to be EXTREMELY shy when it came to guys. But I'm not anymore. Though if I did find a guy that I actually liked I'd be more nervous around him. Unfortunately I don't have that problem at the present time.

but my advise is just be yourself. If you make a fool out of yourself in front of him it's no big deal. Honestly why act like someone you're not around him? He won't get to know the REAL you. And to be honest I make an ass of myself everyday. I'm okay with it. I'm happy with myself original.gif

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post Jun 20th 2009, 4:54 AM
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Oh, I make a myself quite a fool often in front of this guy. I think he has caught on. I think he knows now. Honestly he should just tell if he likes me or not.


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post Jun 20th 2009, 5:49 AM
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I have that same problem too. I have so little confidence in myself, I think I'll never actually get close to someone I really like. no.gif I'm sure someday I'll get past my insecurities and find someone who likes my flaws... as soon as I learn to love them. haha.gif rolleyes.gif


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post Jun 20th 2009, 10:01 AM
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I think every girl feels that way at one point or another.

QUOTE(Merenwen @ Jun 20th 2009, 3:19 AM) *

but my advise is just be yourself. If you make a fool out of yourself in front of him it's no big deal. Honestly why act like someone you're not around him? He won't get to know the REAL you. And to be honest I make an ass of myself everyday. I'm okay with it. I'm happy with myself original.gif

thumbsup.gif agreed!!

I'm pretty outgoing. I joke around a lot and Past 2 years I've def grown and have become more myself and confident in who i am and I don't usually get shy around guys. Sometimes I do if I'm attracted to them or something. But either I'm extremely smart or just very oblivious to the world (I'd go with option #2 on that) B/c even if i think i might like a guy or am attracted to him, I automatically assume he prob wont like me. Like, i never think when i meet guys that there's a possibility they'll start to like me, So I'm just very outgoing and totally myself from the beginning. So it's usually a surprise when i find out a guy likes me b/c i just never think a guy will. (if that makes sense)



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post Jun 20th 2009, 12:35 PM
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Yeah I think I've definitely gotten better with the shyness thing, and I do agree the best way about going about it is to be your self you don't want any problems with trusting each other if you "acted" a certain way and was being dishonest. It's a struggle but, I don't see myself dealing with that specifically with any guys that I may or may not like soon. So oh well... I just need to remind myself that it isn't as much as a big deal as I'm making it into.


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post Jun 21st 2009, 9:33 AM
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I'm super shy around guys too, haha.

Even if I'm talking to a guy that I don't like, I still get really nervous and think I'll say something dumb.

I'm really shy around people I don't know, and I just can't get the courage to talk to guys.

Me and my friends always say "what's the worst that could happen" and "you never know what will happen if you don't do anything." But it's still really hard, you know? blushing.gif


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post Jun 21st 2009, 9:46 AM
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^ It definitely is hard. sad.gif With time it will pass, though. You'll become comfortable enough to embarass yourself, say whatever you feel like, and the right guy will get to know that side of you. I used to be really shy around anyone I didn't know, and I heard my friends say things like that too. But you have to really understand what they're saying and experience it for yourself before you get used to it. happy.gif


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post Jun 21st 2009, 9:00 PM
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QUOTE(Monkey07 @ Jun 20th 2009, 1:24 AM) *

I do the same exact thing. I tend to over-think things especially when it comes to guys or a guy I like. I also get jealous too of people who are confident/have a really bubbly personality, mainly because I am shy and I strive for that so much it just feels like I fail constantly.

Oh gosh, I get so jealous of people who are confident. I have like zero self-confidence, and no matter what I try, I just can't seem to have confidence. I do the positive self-talk, yadda yadda, but whenever I'm around people I don't know really well (both guys and girls) I feel like everything I say is completely idiotic, so I tend to just not say anything. If I could change anything about myself, that's totally what it would be.

And on a completely unrelated note, I love how three people who've posted in here (that I've noticed) have Evan in their siggy wub.gif Love him so much!


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post Jun 22nd 2009, 8:35 AM
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QUOTE(TotalTayFan @ Jun 21st 2009, 10:00 PM) *

Oh gosh, I get so jealous of people who are confident. I have like zero self-confidence, and no matter what I try, I just can't seem to have confidence. I do the positive self-talk, yadda yadda, but whenever I'm around people I don't know really well (both guys and girls) I feel like everything I say is completely idiotic, so I tend to just not say anything. If I could change anything about myself, that's totally what it would be.

And on a completely unrelated note, I love how three people who've posted in here (that I've noticed) have Evan in their siggy wub.gif Love him so much!

I pretty much do the same thing and feel the same way... I just feel like I never have anything siginificant to contribute to conversations most of the time so I just don't bother. I know I should at least try, but it's so hard for me to break the habit I've had to deal with for so long. unsure.gif


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post Jun 25th 2009, 11:58 AM
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I was once mega shy, but now I'm so outgoing. I'm really good at making things awkward and not caring either. And I've never had a problem talking to guys, even guys I have a thing for. I'm more awkward around girls if anything because they can be so judgmental and rude and cruel sad.gif

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QUOTE(xxStacieLynn @ Jun 19th 2009, 7:54 PM) *

My problem is not even jealousy when it comes to girls but I get such low confidence whenever I see the guy I like, flirting or liking another girl. crying.gif
AH, I know.. I shouldn't even be upset, but I do get upset & I find myself comparing myself to girls all the time. sad.gif
I'm getting A LOT better though & I am reminding myself everyday, to love all that I am, including my flaws. heart.gif

UGH, I'm the exact same way! Except I get kinda jealous, not just a feeling of major low confidence. And it's not just when the guy I like is flirting/liking, but just plain out talking to other girls. HAHA, suuuper lame I know! I hate it. And I'm not even over him, eeeeshh.

& That's great that you're growing to embrace everything about yourself though. I'm learning to do that too. huggy.gif


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QUOTE(ringette04 @ Jun 21st 2009, 9:46 AM) *

^ It definitely is hard. sad.gif With time it will pass, though. You'll become comfortable enough to embarass yourself, say whatever you feel like, and the right guy will get to know that side of you. I used to be really shy around anyone I didn't know, and I heard my friends say things like that too. But you have to really understand what they're saying and experience it for yourself before you get used to it. happy.gif


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I guess I just have to put myself out there, haha.

Who knows, maybe when I go back to school I'll find my way and sit next to a guy laughing.gif

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QUOTE(TotalTayFan @ Jun 21st 2009, 10:00 PM) *

Oh gosh, I get so jealous of people who are confident. I have like zero self-confidence, and no matter what I try, I just can't seem to have confidence. I do the positive self-talk, yadda yadda, but whenever I'm around people I don't know really well (both guys and girls) I feel like everything I say is completely idiotic, so I tend to just not say anything. If I could change anything about myself, that's totally what it would be.

And on a completely unrelated note, I love how three people who've posted in here (that I've noticed) have Evan in their siggy wub.gif Love him so much!
QUOTE(saran4886 @ Jun 22nd 2009, 9:35 AM) *

I pretty much do the same thing and feel the same way... I just feel like I never have anything siginificant to contribute to conversations most of the time so I just don't bother. I know I should at least try, but it's so hard for me to break the habit I've had to deal with for so long. unsure.gif
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I'm the exact same way. pinch.gif

Like with me, I can talk to people on facebook chat and be completely fine and confident, but face to face, I'm extremely shy. pinch.gif I've talked to the guy I like for HOURS on facebook chat, and then when one of us has to go, he'd say "I'll see you tomorrow at school!" so I'd try to prepare myself to have to talk to him in person (I'm such a dork laughing.gif ) and then when he says hi to me at school I can't even open my mouth because I freak out and try not to embarrass myself. ughhh I wish I had confidence! I'm so jealous of girls who can just walk right up to guys and start talking to them.


p.s. this thread is such a good idea!

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post Jun 28th 2009, 1:32 PM
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^It is a good idea! grin.gif

I'm a lot more confident online too. Then, when I actually have to speak I either mumble or don't speak at all... and it's weird, because I want to talk, but I can't seem to find the courage to actually send the words out of my mouth. ermm.gif


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